GUYS ONLY: Which would you prefer---A woman who you know LIKES you or one who presents a CHALLENGE?
January 5th, 2009A) A woman who answers your calls, initiates calls/texts, looks forward to seeing you and shows a genuine interest in getting to know who you are. She doesn't expect you to pay for ALL the dates, but shows gratitude when you do by paying for the next one. She lets you know in different ways that you're the ONLY guy she's focused on getting to know at the time and that she likes your personality. She makes you a priority when it comes to the weekend, as far as what she may want to do.
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B) She doesn't pick up when you call every time. She rarinitiatesever iniates calls/text. You have to always plan ahead to go out with her because she is always sooooo busy. She not only expects you to pay for every date, but she insists that you take her OUT on the town every time you get up. You sorta think she likes you, but maybe not---because she is always talking about her "other" male friends. She makes it clear that she is just dating around and not really sure what she's looking for. And she seldomly includes her weekend plans around you because she always wants to hang out with her friends.
I'm not trying to make option "A" look like the apparent choice. But I recently was girl "A" and this guy loss interest in me, and said that behavior was a turn-off. So this has led me to believe that it's better to be Girl "B". Because I have been Girl "B" and guys do RESPOND differently, but not because they actually like me more but because they just have to satisfy themselves in feeling like they conquered me. Maybe a balance of both would be best. Both wouldn't that be playing a "game"?
As humans, we like things to come easy, and we will only give a great chase if the goal is really worth it, but we all know, there's always another woman just around the corner waiting to fill your spot.
There are plenty more fish in the sea, I know it's cliche, but it's true.
All I can suggest to you Pretty Lady is that you let go of all the hang-ups about your recent boyfriend. After a break-up, it's easy to pick away at the other persons faults, you're too fat, too thin, too short, you're ignorant, annoying, controlling, etc... the list can go on, but only if you allow yourself to listen to it.
You are who you are, you will not change, and neither will anyone else.
If you ever do manage to change your man, it will only be for the benefit of his next girlfriend.
Show me the most beautiful, perfectly formed, intelligent, witty woman, and I will show you a bored boyfriend. IF the chemistry is not there Pretty Lady, you cannot force it to work.
You are far to good to waste your time over some guy, move on, do not call him, do not respond to his emails and texts, just make a clean break and start a new chapter. A person can only intimidate you and make you feel worthless if you allow them to.
You need to move forward, but you can't do that while you're focusing intently in the rear view mirror.
I wish you well.
Hmmmm---I would say neither. I say that, because---it all depends on how I feel about the woman involved. If I am interested in her---then of course A----but if I'm not interested in her it wouldn't matter which one she acted like. But as far as you getting "dumped" because you showed too much interest. I think that just reveals, that the guy wasn't as into you as you were into him. Because had he been---that would have NOT been a good reason to let you go. He must have been having issues of his own (controlling) because I can think of a thousand worse reasons to dump a chick. And truthfully---you're what the MAJORITY of REAL men would be looking for. So don't let that jack%ss ruin your sweetness. He just wasn't for you. And I bet you---once he matures and grows up a bit---he's going to remember how sweet/affectionate/considerate you were and be wishing he would have kept you. But you'll be long go---married or in the arms of a deserving gent.
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